Friday, October 24, 2008

Navigating Through the Waters of International Adoption......

Another morning of disappointment. I really think the best way to describe the feeling is running downstairs on Christmas morning and seeing that Santa did not leave any presents under the tree. Not only that but he took the tree, stockings and ate all the cookies and drank the milk. That is the feeling we get each morning no e-mail arrives from the CIS in Ho Chi Minh City.
Frustrating to say the least, because we have absolutely ZERO control over the process. Trish said that it is so hard because "She is right there" and we can't do anything to help move things along. We wait on the USCIS and the Vietnamese provincial government. Its not like we can walk down the street and use both of our great negotiation skills (Tricia is the best sales person I have ever met). So many people ask "When are you going to Viet Nam?" WE WISH WE KNEW! But we just say "Don't know." CIS says average processing time for I-600s is 45 business days. Lord grant us the patience to endure another weekend. COME ON MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I found the below prayer which is fitting:
Gracious God, it’s so hard to wait. To wait for new things to happen in my life. To wait for you to answer my prayers. To wait for the open doors that may lead me into a new way of being. During the time of waiting, it seems that all I can think of is having what it is I am waiting for. At times I feel weary of asking and waiting, and I wonder if you really hear my prayers at all, if you are ignoring me, or if you are simply refusing to give me my heart’s desire. A part of me knows that you want my best, and that your time is not my time, but Lord, it is still so hard to wait. Deepen my trust, O Lord, during the times when my heart longs for what can only come in the fullness of time. Give me a calm assurance that your will for me is grander than anything I could ever imagine. Still my mind and heart in your love so that I am mindful of the grace you are draping around me every single day, every single moment. I ask this for the sake of your love.

11 comments:

mommabelz said...

TO POP: I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH TOGETHER. WHO WOULD HAVE THOUGHT THE SONG WE HAD OUR FIRST DANCE TO "THROUGH THE YEARS" WOULD REALLY MAKE SENSE NOW. BUT JUST LIKE THE SONG SAID.."THROUGH THE YEARS YOU NEVER LET ME DOWN, YOU TURN MY HEART AROUND, THE SWEETEST DAYS I'VE HAD WITH YOU....THROUGH THE YEARS YOU'VE NEVER BEEN AFRAID YOU KISS MY TEARS AWAY THAT'S WHILE I'LL STAY WITH YOU THROUGH THE YEARS." I LOVE YOU POOKIE BEAR. WE CAN MAKE IT WITH EACH OTHER.

Annette said...

I love the prayer. Thanks for sharing. This is the type of prayer that Dustin and I have been praying for a long time. We know that God will bring our children home, but some days it is just so hard not knowing when that day will come. We continue to pray that all of our children will be home before Christmas!

I hope you both have a great weekend. Monday will be here before you know it!

Blessings,
Annette

Anonymous said...

A special, special prayer indeed.

How I wish God's timing was ours, but He has it already planned out. I know your strength is coming from Him, and your prayers WILL be answered, I promise.

Love you both as well as my sweet, Sophie. Gaga is watching over your precious baby girl, I know.

XXXOOO

Alex and Riann said...

I remember that feeling so very, very well. I wish we could help in some way, but if it brings you comfort to remember those that have also waited, perhaps that will help in this wait. I remember after the zillionth time opening my e-mail to NO NEWS, thinking, "How many times can my stomach sink like this and I still keep walking?" The disappointment is tangible, isn't it? Blessings to you and yours, Riann

Anonymous said...

We know waiting is so hard but just remember Gods timing is perfect and when we wait on Him everything works out for the best. You have been blessed with a beautiful little girl and in time she will be in your arms We all have a lot to be thankful for and we all can endure the wait together.

Love you

Moma and Dad

J and J said...

I remember the same feelings just a couple months ago. The ache is so real it makes me sad to know that there still so many families waiting to be united with their kids. It is hard to come up with comforting words since I know that not much comforted us while we waited as well. Just know that when approval does come things move pretty quick from there, what a glorious day! We will keep you in our prayers!

Valorie Leonard said...

Hang in there! The good news I want to remind you of is that Monday in VN is really Sunday there! Hopefully you will hear from them this week!

Stevens Family said...

Ugg, I remember the days of hating Friday and loving Monday. It'll come!! Hang in there and try to have a great weekend.

Anonymous said...

Hey guys - Hank you were right, I was on the old forum. But I got it right now! That is a beautiful prayer. I know the wait is difficult but just imagine how sweet that day will be when this all comes together! Much love from the McIntyre Clan (Mike, Kayla & Guinness too!) See you soon...

Let's Go Blues!

Thomas & Cathy said...

I know how hard it is, but very soon you will have forgotten all about it because you'll be booking air travel and packing! Check before you go to bed too because our email came at 9:30pm. We are thinking about you guys!
Love, T, C, and E

Duda Family said...

Hank and Tricia - you summed up exactly how we feel. We try not to obsessively check and recheck e-mail daily looking for that approval from USCIS. Thank you for the prayer. We needed it today, :) Can't wait to hear you are on your way to beautiful Sophie. Love, Mary Li and Jim